Whatever your reasons for wanting to part ways with your current employer, if your employer decides to make you a counter-offer when you resign, should you take it? Well, this all depends on your reasons for wanting to leave in the first place.

If your reasons centre around more money or responsibilities, then you should refrain from accepting the tempting offer. Reasons such as money or more responsibilities can be discussed with your current employer, so they may feel a breach of trust if you decide to go on job interviews instead of approaching them first.

Also, accepting a counter-offer can be seen as a stalling tactic, in some instances. Management will now view you as a flight risk and may start looking for a replacement. They’ll think that you will eventually leave, so they might as well have someone else lined up.

Claudio Fernández-Aráoz, author, international speaker and global expert on talent and leadership, says:

Once you’ve accepted an offer, it is not only questionable to turn it down for a counteroffer from your current employer, but also a poor career decision.

“In this case, most people end up leaving — or getting fired — shortly after accepting the counteroffer”, Fernández-Aráoz said.

So, when is it suitable to accept a counter-offer?

Your employer may be more understanding if your reason for wanting to leave had something to do with your lifestyle. For example, if the other job is closer to your home, or is a better choice for your family at the moment. That is a different discussion. Perhaps you can negotiate flexi time – such as working from home on certain days of the week. The trust would have still been breached though, because your employer may feel that you could have approached them first.

At the end of the day, to have a healthy working relationship with your employer, there has to be trust, and it starts with good communication.

Think hard before accepting a counter-offer. It may cause more harm than good.

Until next time, love and light.



The article is provided for general information purposes only. Whilst care has been taken to ensure accuracy, the content provided is not intended to stand alone as any form of advice or career advice. An expert should be consulted for advice based on the facts and circumstances of each scenario.

The contributor (Kim Nokwaza) shall not be liable for any loss or damages suffered by anyone who relies on or acts upon the information contained in this piece.


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